I talk a lot about change and what you need to do to elicit change. What I haven’t touched on is ‘how not to change’. I have included a list of ‘things’ that are recipes for inertia. Can you see any of these in yourself?
Maximise the fear of the unknown
Spend a lot of time with people who think about problems the same way
Don’t finish anything you start
Create debilitating isolation
Presume change is too much effort
Have unrealistic time frames for change
Have limiting beliefs about yourself (I can’t, I shouldn’t, someone told me I wasn’t good enough)
Never think about avenues
Give up
Believe it may not happen
Believe in your fears
Doubt your own competence….. always
Avoid personal psychology books and change seminars
Denigrate change and praise the past
Worry about the effect of change on others…. And do nothing
Avoid thinking about change
Accept you can’t do anything
Don’t plan
Shoot down ideas with other ideas to create a diversion
Form a committee for change and have daily meetings with compulsory attendance
Never deviate from routines
Keep yourself under constant pressure
Accept NO for an answer
Create a very large standard manual
Be conflicted and blame others
Become cynical
Above all, never dream
Think I can do everything or I should do everything
Never accept support or ask for support
Think that it is better the ‘devil you know’
The list could go on. Do you get the picture? All of the above (even one or two of the above) will have a debilitating effect on anything you are trying to change for the positive. You need to deal with them head on.
Start to think about you are self-sabotaging any positive change in your life. Take control of your own destiny.
Is it your time to change?
Until next time, with Love xxxx